Chapter 9 - THOMAS STARTED THERAPY

Thomas had grown up in a house where illness was treated as weakness.
His father worked through pneumonia.
His mother dismissed migraines.
Nobody went to a doctor unless blood was visible.
That explained him.
It did not excuse him.
He started therapy after I told him our marriage could not continue exactly as it had.
Not because he failed to diagnose an ovarian cyst.
He was not a doctor.
Because he had repeatedly treated certainty as authority.
His certainty.
My doubt.
Eliza’s pain.
That hierarchy had nearly cost us dearly.
Months later, Thomas told me:
“I thought being calm made me rational.”
I looked at him.
“It sometimes made you dismissive.”
“I know.”
“And I let you.”
He nodded.
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We both had work to do.
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